How to be safe when it comes to dating services and STD's?
Q: I am a 45 SWM and have been working with various dating services for about a year and have met about 6 or 7 nice but no quite right women this way. Besides all the obvious things (interests, goals, passions, income, BMI, age, etc) there is one topic that I haven't figured out how to approach: sexually transmitted disease. I want to be safe and feel that this information should be part of the process. Maybe the pricier match services should require a physicians report? How would you advise approaching this?
Sometimes there is no easy way to approach the topic of sexually transmitted disease so you may just need to muster the courage and weave it into the larger discussion that two people have who are getting to know each other. Try to first normalize the subject in your own mind so there is less embarrassment and shame. Then add it to your list of "obvious things" to talk about, such as goals and passions. By being the one to confront this, you are demonstrating maturity and showing respect for the well-being of yourself and your partner. I'm afraid you, not your dating service, must take responsibility for having this discussion prior to physical intimacy. In the long run, your honesty will reap large rewards as far as trust in the relationship is concerned.
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