Hurts, Not so Good
Q: Whenever my boyfriend tries to penetrate me I suffer from immense pain and we have to stop. Is there any advice you can provide to help us overcome this problem?
I suggest that you visit a GYN to rule out any medical causes of this situation. Once this has been done and if no underlying medical issue is found, the doctor might tell you that you have involuntary spasms of the muscles surrounding the vaginal entrance called vaginismus, making penetration frustrating and painful, and often avoided. Neither you nor your boyfirend is doing anything wrong but it certainly is a situation that can negatively affect the relationship.
Women who have vaginismus are generally sexually responsive and can be orgastic and like sexual play once this is resolved. It's important that you seek out a qualified Sex Therapist who can take a detailed sexual history-have you had previous attempts at intercourse? Have you had the same outcome? By asking you many questions about your past and current sexual, relationship and medical status, the therapist will determine the cause and treatment of this condition. I am confident that through this process, you will be able to resolve this problem, making things more comfortable with sex and your relationship.
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