Q: I am dating a man whom I care for very much and we have not yet been intimate. At first I thought we were just taking things slowly but last week he confessed that he has herpes and did not want to do anything to jeopardize my health or our relationship. As you can imagine, I am freaked out by this news and even though he has assured me I will not be at risk if we use a condom, I am finding that hard to believe. Can you please give me the straight facts on this topic?

Q: I have read a lot about aphrodisiacs and am wondering if there is any truth to it all. Can certain foods really affect your sex drive and, if so, what can I add to my diet to increase my appetite?

Q: I have never been into porn which as a man many women think is unusual. How can I ease myself into it and learn how to enjoy it with the women I date?

Q: I am a single man in my forties living in New York. While I have no problems meeting women and dating, I have a hard time performing oral sex on the women with whom I become intimate. Many of them have called me selfish. Can you offer any guidance?

Q: Are there any benefits to going green in the bedroom? I keep coming across organic sex products and am wondering what the advantages can be and which are the most reliable brands/products.

Q: I am best friends with a guy who suffers with severe bouts of anxiety and depression.  And his symptoms seem to be getting worse. He refuses to go on anti-depressants  for fear that it will ruin his interest in sex as well as performance. It pains me to see a grown man suffering and self-sabotaging, and I wonder if there is anything I can do to help?