The Allure of Stoker...

Q: Can you tell us how you website StokerAllure.com intends to help single guys get their game on?


At StokerAllure we provide everything a man needs to know on how to attract, date and ultimately keep a woman in his life. We offer in-depth articles covering all aspects of "game" from approaching, strategy, talking points, physical escalation, bedroom behavior and so much more. We leave no stone unturned. We also offer personal one-on-one services that really gets men the results theyre after. These coaching sessions range from phone consultations, email support, informal sit-downs discussions and the all-out OneonOne Outing where we go out together with me as your own personal wingman. Those are a blast!


Q: Unfortunately, many men have no clue how to seduce a woman. What is your secret in taking that first step? 


The first step is really usually the toughest for my clients. The secret is to get them to take an honest and frank look at their romantic history, where they are now and what they want. Usually, the difference is so vast that they have backfilled it with so many excuses and reasons that they truly have dug themselves in a hole. Gladly, I'm here to lend a hand.


Q: Would most single men you know marry a woman that slept with them on the first date?


Depends on how good it was! No seriously though, most men I know wouldnt continue to see that woman unless there was more than just the physical. Say, they both had a bit too much to drink and they end up hooking up, unless there was something else more intriguing about her  , seeing her again wouldnt be likely.


Q: What are some tell-tale signs that can help men determine whether or not a woman is into them?


Eye contact is huge. If she is looking over at least three times, a guy should be over there talking. I like to give a little glance to see on how her feet are positioned. The direction of her feet usually indicate where she wants to be. If they point at you, she wants to stay and talk, if they point to the door...well. .. Hair touching or adjusting of clothes around him is a good sign too. Its  her subconscious trying to fix or present herself  in the best way.


Q: How can a guy who’s not good at flirting get good?


The same way you get to Carnegie Hall- Practice. One tip I have for my beginners is to utilize women that open and approach them like retail workers or waitresses. When she comes over and says hi, he can comment on the store or something relevant and then establish some good flirty energy. The key here is through practice, men can identify feminine patterns and more importantly his own patterns of conversation and emotions. Then he can reference his experience and start getting good.


Q: Secret sex tip every man should know about?


To not ignore the rest of her body. A lot of guys are so focused on the penetration side of sex that they miss the other things like kissing her neck or back, lacing fingers, looking into her eyes or playfully pulling her hair. Make sex a whole body experience.


Q: Many men experience the fear and flight syndrome as soon as a relationship starts to go well. Is it normal to panic and if so, how can they control it?


I think it's completely natural, though I believe it's based in our unfair expectations. When a relationship starts to go well, there is an assumption of trust and comfort. Both men and women tend to rely on that feeling of stability although we all know that emotions and romantic notions are very delicate and fleeting endeavors. If a man feels like there is an unfair attachment from her, he's likely to bounce. If he's feeling like there is more to find out with her, he's more likely to stay in.


Q: What are some bachelor pad must haves that will make a good first, second or overnight impression?


Where a man hangs his hat is a huge extension of his personality and she is going to be paying very close attention to it. A guy can make a good impression proudly presenting pictures of his family or vacations or fun pictures of his friends in frames. Show her what's important to him. Some guys aren't that tidy, so they should have a "go to " backup set of sheets and towels that they can bust out for her stay. Just remember to wash them and store them for the next go 'round. One thing that is essential is to clean the bathroom. This is going to serve as her little place to take care of herself in his place so make sure it's clean. She will ignore the pile of clothes or xbox games as long as she can pee in peace.


Q: Do you think women and men can/should be friends after a break up? Why or why not?


Some say that life is a series of hellos and goodbyes, I disagree. I am still very close with some of my past relationships and my thought is this: she was once one of the most important people in my life, why shouldnt we still be close?. Of course, the trick is to maintain behind the line that you and her have drawn and set healthy friendship boundaries.