You’ve Got to Kiss a Lot of …. Princes!
Most of the women over 40 I talk to have become frustrated about dating because they seem to think many men are cads, players, jerks — in other words frogs! I’m here to share another view.
In the last 4 years I’ve dated 98 men. No, that’s not 98 dates, but 98 individual men. Some multiple times. I’ve had some 6-week to 6-month relationships.
Out of 98 men, I’ve had 10 bad first dates. I don’t think 10% is bad, really. However, I’ve met some interesting, kind, generous gentlemen. Those are the princes — they just weren’t my prince! There was some fatal flaw that I knew was a deal breaker. Am I being overly picky? Perhaps, but after realizing I’d “settled” in my marriage, I don’t want to do that to my next partner — or me — again.
So, if you’ve had a bad encounter or two, it doesn’t mean everyone out there is a cad. It just means you have to do a better job screening by email and phone before you go on a date! You can tell a lot about someone by what they ask — or don’t ask, and what they tell you. I’ve saved myself many hours of suffering through a bad date by not saying yes to an invitation from someone who was arrogant, filthy-mouthed, sex-focused, interrupted me constantly — you get the picture.
And I still keep in contact with a dozen of my gems who weren’t good matches, but we enjoy each other’s company. So they are princes — for someone else — and you get to enjoy their princeness without the complications and expectations of being a couple. And they’re great to ask my “Why would a guy…” questions!
Princes are everywhere. Give a guy a chance to see if he is your prince. I know my prince is looking for me as hard as I’m looking for him. But if I don’t even answer his emails, how will I know?
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