A New Circle of Friends Reinforces Adam
Q: Where are you from?
I’m originally from Montreal. After college, I worked for 2 years, went to Boston for grad school and then spent the last 3 years in Seattle before the company transferred me to New York.
Q: Why did you choose New York?
Seattle is one of the most beautiful, green and friendly places I've ever been. You can go skiing in knee-deep powder 40 minutes from the city when it's sunny and warm downtown. But I very easily became domesticated over the past 3 years; renovating my house, big dinner parties and living outside of downtown made me lose touch with the fact that I was only 28 and still wanted to be living a more urban lifestyle for another few years - I am a music lover and had not seen a live show in months. When it was time for my next job, my company asked me if I was interested in NYC and I jumped on it. I figured that if I missed playing guitar by the water, I could always head over to Battery Park.
Q: You are recently single, what do you like best about this new lifestyle?
Feeling like I have myself back again, all to myself. I felt like I lost that in my last relationship. I didn’t feel like I had 100% control over me and now that I have it back it’s really nice.
Q: How do you think this single period will affect the next relationship you get into?
I think I will be more thoughtful in the next serious relationship I get into. I’ve learned a lot about myself over the past little while. I learned that every relationship will have tough times but if there are more tough times than good times it’s time to call it quits. Dragging things on doesn’t do any good for either party. I also learned that I need to be in a situation where I can laugh and smile everyday. This is a top priority for me, and without it I'm just not being true to myself. It can eat away at your self-confidence if you're not careful.
Q: Are you surprised at how well you are doing post-break up?
I’m not so surprised. I bounce back pretty quickly from adversity in general. But I will say that I'm proud of myself. It could have been a disaster but the process was a lot simpler than I thought and I think that’s because it started long before we actually broke up. When the real separation took place it just felt natural and since we were both on the same page we treated each other with complete respect the whole way.
Q: So now you are a single male in New York, how do you meet new people?
I’m just going to be out there. I am having more fun now than I have ever had at any moment in my lifetime. I sincerely look forward to every day. I hang out with all kinds of people that I wouldn’t have hung out with when I was in a relationship. Every time I’m out there, this insane city connects me with new people. I am just not closed to anything and I think people can sense that.
Q: Is that your approach to life in general?
Yes. Everyone walks with their head down but as soon as you see someone smiling you smile back - it's almost an automatic. I get a much better reaction out of people when I am in a good mood. The more that I’m in a good mood, the more the people around me are in a good mood and it becomes a reinforcing circle. It takes more of an effort but it’s always worth it.
Q: Any words of advice for other singles?
Good stuff finds you if you put yourself out there.
